Myself and Psychotherapist and Mindset Coach Kamalyn Kaur were interviewed on BBC Radio Scotland earlier this week about 'Divorce Day'. Divorce Day is shortly after Christmas and New Year when divorce lawyers see a surge in enquiries. Why is this?  

Many couples wait until after the festive season has finished to avoid a messy divorce over the festive break. The pressure of playing happy families and keeping up the pretence can become too much and relationships break down as people look to the year ahead, hoping things will be different, only to realise, they said the same thing last year. 

This is something I can relate to also. I am one of those stats, ending a seven year relationship eight days into January. I had made up my mind on New Year's Day that the relationship had to end and gave my self two weeks to have the conversation with my partner. I waited for extended family to leave and return home and then it all spilled out. I was calm, because I knew despite the hurt and heartbreak this was going to cause, staying put was going to be more painful and I needed to stay strong and firm.  

Do I sound harsh?  It's strange isn't it how we can feel guilty about setting healthy boundaries and putting our own needs first. Why is that? If we look at it another way, I was freeing my partner to find someone to love him the way I couldn't and he wanted - that's got to be better for everyone involved. I can now say he is with someone else, they have a baby together and are, I believe, very happy. Equally for me, after spending the next seven years working on myself, travelling and figuring out who I was and what I wanted from life, I'm pleased to say I've met someone lovely and we're very happy - so the divorce lawyers won't be making any money from me. 

I'd love to know your experiences, thoughts and questions on the subject. Please do email me at info@changeyourworld.me or follow me on social media.