How to Feel the Love on Valentine’s Day
How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? Is it an all out show of affection, showering a loved one with gifts and treats, or an unnecessary expense and pressure that feels false and forced?
For some, it can be another painful reminder of the void or loneliness they feel by not having that special someone to share their life with.
This was the topic for conversation today in our weekly ‘Winter Wellness’ feature on BBC Radio Scotland with Kaye Adams. We discussed the pressure and commercialism that can come with Valentine’s Day, and how you stop it becoming a forced transaction of presents.
The anxiety of this day can be caused by the worry of what others will think of you or that your relationship is somehow measured on the gifts you receive from your loved one. If you’re single, the worry is that you are judged for not having a partner. Where does this all come from? The most important relationship any of us can have, is the one we have with ourselves. If you find yourself getting hung up about Valentine’s Day, then that’s an alarm to say some work is required. Try exploring why you put so much emphasis on this one day and what is missing that you think will be filled by the marking of this one day in the calendar?
I would highlight that loneliness is a real issue that can have a devastating impact on your health, happiness, and wellbeing, so don’t be dismissive of your feelings. Remember feelings, particularly painful ones are there to get our attention and a call to action.
If you are feeling lonely, start building up your networks by attending activities that interest you. Not only will you learn new skills and hobbies, but you will also organically start building up friendships. It requires you to step out of your comfort zone, which is challenging, but remember other people in those groups will be looking for friendship, love and connection too.
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